Doors to Demons in a Marriage
There is a war in the spirit against your family and home. We can discuss different ways to treat your spouse, children, and relatives. But we must also remember that there is a spiritual war and we must fight in the Spirit for our families. To win the invisible war against your marriage it is crucial to submit to God, and then resist the devil (James 4:7).
Through the word of God, we know that doors can be left open to the devil in your marriage. The following are three main areas where doors can be left open in a marriage.
Neglecting Your Duty Toward Your Spouse
1 Corinthians 7:3 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
1 Corinthians 7:3 tells us that when a couple refrains from sexual intercourse, it gives space for the devil to tempt us using our human sexual desires. This specific example is the husband and wife’s mutual responsibility to freely give their bodies to each other for sexual satisfaction. However, any neglect of our duties will open doors to the devil. In 1 Timothy 5:8, the Bible tells us that the husband who does not provide for his wife is worse than an unbeliever. Given such, the husband’s lack of provision opens the door for demons to attack the marriage. It is also the husband’s duty to protect and lead his wife. The wife’s duty is to help and submit to her husband. Also, wives are the primary managers of the home.
When a husband or a wife neglects these duties, it can give place to the devil to bring a foothold in the marriage. You and your spouse may have disagreements and issues that you need to work out. However, when issues arise, do not give the devil room in your marriage by intentionally neglecting your marital duties. If you do so, it brings a terrible infection to the wound that’s already in the marriage which makes the situation much more difficult to heal. continue to do your marital duties according to God’s Word even when you and your spouse may not be getting along.
Dishonoring Our Spouse
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
We also see that our behavior in a marriage has spiritual significance. When we treat our partners in an unbiblical manner, we expose ourselves and the relationship to attacks of the devil. The Bible warns in 1 Peter 3:7 that dishonoring each other can lead to our prayers being hindered; certainly, such gives the enemy space. A husband dishonors his wife when he deals with her without sensitivity and understanding, wounding her with his words and actions. A wife dishonors her husband when she refuses to submit to him and respect him. Insulting and putting each other down during disagreements can give space to the devil. Keep your lips and your actions filled with respect and honor towards yous spouse, closing any doors to the devil.
Being Overtaken by Anger Towards Our Spouse
Ephesians 4:27 which says, “Neither give place to the devil” is a continuation of Ephesians 4:26 which says “Be ye angry, and sin not; let not the sun go down upon your wrath.
We see then that allowing ourselves to be overtaken with anger with our spouse can give space to the devil. Anger and festering bitterness towards a spouse can lead to regrettable words and actions. I have heard stories of a wife picking up a kitchen knife at her husband, or of a husband raising his fists towards his wife. During heated and angry couple conflicts, insulting words are spoken that end in regret later. The best thing to do is step away while too angry and give yourself the opportunity to think and respond with soberness. Husbands and wives should endeavor to resolve their issues as soon s possible, not allowing anger and bitterness to set in. If anger and bitterness take over, the devil can find space in a marriage.
Disagreement and conflicts may happen often in a marriage. Couples can work through these by having common values, communicating, resolving differences, and receiving counseling if necessary. but opening a door to the devil in the marriage can lead to more chaotic issues. When common issues occur, give no space to the devil. Keep your marital duties, honor your spouse, and keep your anger under control.
