Fatherly Act: Being Present
Psalm 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
One of the greatest fundamental acts of fathers is being present for their children. Sure, a father’s job and hard work may take up plenty of their time. However, a father’s presence brings a sense of security and assurance, allowing the child to feel significant. God is always present to help us when we need him. Following God’s example, fathers should endeavor to be present for their children, available and there when needed. Being human, we may not always be physically present, but we can create an atmosphere where our children know they can depend on us.
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The Builders, Protectors, and Warriors of the Family
Even in a busy world, there are steps a father can take to ensure their child feels like they are present.
Set consistent times to be with them - create a routine when your children know you will be around.
Check on them periodically as much as possible - even if you do not live in the same house with your child, your communication and consistent check-in creates a sense of presence in the heart of your child.
Show up at significant times – special moments such as birthdays and holidays are obvious. Also, try to be present for moments that are important to your child, such as momentous accomplishments, achievements, and activities.
Respond when they express a need – make your best effort to be there when your child calls for help. At the very least, give the reassurance that all will be well, or you will be there when you can.
Spontaneously take time out for them – do something spontaneously with or for your children, or show up unexpectedly when possible.
Don’t Be Home But Absent
It is possible to be home and still absent. Some fathers are consumed with social media, online activities, video games, television, sports, and other hobbies that they seldom give attention to their children.
One of the greatest ways to demonstrate your presence is to step away from online entertainment activities, and personal hobbies and give the time to play with your young children, and talk with or take out your older children.
With young children, you can create a consistent bedtime routine, telling them stories and praying with them. Playtime at the park, in the backyard, or with indoor games in the house, is another way to give your presence to your younger children.
For your older young ones, finding a consistent rhythm of taking them out to their favorite spots is a good way to show your presence. Taking time just to talk to them about their endeavors in life’s challenges goes a long way in giving them your presence.
